Personality training and education for parents before the child is 6 years old

As the saying goes: "Character determines fate." And parents are the children's first teacher, so parental education is crucial to the child's growth. Studies have shown that 50% of children's personality is formed around 3 years old, about 80% by around 7 years old, and 95% by the age of 12 years.

Children 1-6 years old is the formation period of personality habits. Parents must pay more attention to them. With good character habits, they can get more done with half the effort.

In the process of children's growth, how to train children to restrain self-willedness, prevent depression, learn to control, learn to endure, prevent selfishness, frustration and endurance are all major problems that parents will encounter. So what do you do? Today, we share the knowledge about dry child care.

Responsibility

He wants to buy a car. There are countless people in the family who still want to buy it. When the store starts to make trouble, the child just refuses to go. What should I do?

Sharing of opinions: The child is helpless in his early years, and all his voices are expressed by crying. Before the age of two, his crying represented some of his pain. But after I was three years old, I began to have a purpose. If I don’t give it to me, I will cry. This purpose began to appear, it is necessary to restrain the child to be willful training. The request he made was unreasonable, and he could not give him anything he wanted. The parents took him home and put it in the bedroom. A person is enough to close the door. Four don't: First, don't yell at him, it will give children a bad idea. Second, don't beat him. Third, quiet down, don't preach. Because he is making trouble at this time, the more you say that he is more trouble with you. Fourth, don't walk away, he will show it to you, so you must watch him. When he cried to exhaustion, take hot water and wipe his face. After the rubbing, the child will think, you change your mind? At this time, you must say this sentence, ask the child to cry? Cry and cry. You tell her in this way, if you don't make sense, I don't feel bad about it and I don't give in. After this time, the child will know that it will be useless in the future.

Prevent depression

But if you don't always buy the things that he wants, he knows that it's useless, and he won't talk to his parents in the future. What should I do?

Sharing ideas: You can't let your child be too depressed. You can tell the child, what will happen in the future, can you tell me well, if you can convince me, I can consider your request. Encourage your child to communicate with you. The principle of communication is three to one, and he will be met once in three times. Let him know that communication is useful, but don't satisfy him every time. After the relationship is established, you can't say anything that you can't do. If he really wants to persist, the child will discuss with you. When he is adolescent, the parent-child relationship will be more harmonious.

Restraint temptation

Can children manage and control themselves when their parents are absent? Because people must learn to control themselves during their growth. Then what should be done?

Viewpoint sharing: We can train with some things like cookies, chocolate and other things that kids love. Give him one for the first three days. I have been insisting for almost a month, and asked him a request: Children, can you not give food this time, do you keep it for three days? I will give you three copies after three days. But if you eat it, you won't give it three days later. After making a request, you should leave him alone. But you must do this. If he eats it three days later, this one will be gone today, and wait three more days. If he keeps it, you will really give him three copies. This way the child will know that the wait is for greater satisfaction. These are all impulses to restrain children.

Learn to endure

Children only want to do things right away. If you are hungry, you must eat immediately. If you have dinner, you will not eat well. What should I do?

Sharing of opinions: From the time the child goes to the table to eat, you give him a rule. If you don't move the chopsticks, you can't eat first. This method is simple but very effective. Children start to go hungry after four or five after school, but we usually eat around six o'clock. So there are a lot of grandparents who are distressed and say that the child is hungry and let him eat first, but no. First of all, the hungry hour is not bad for him; the second hungry is really uncomfortable. But the most basic pain in life is hunger. And when he goes to the society, he will have more pain, let the children experience it. People can only experience the suffering of others when they are in pain. The same is true for children. Therefore, to have the consciousness of others, this is called waiting and control of eating.

Prevent selfishness

The child did not have a long time with his grandparents, but he did not share his ideas. He had a good meal for him to share with his grandparents. Every time he had to yell at him loudly, he reluctantly agreed. What can I do?

Viewpoint sharing: When the child is small, intentionally do something, peel the orange for the child, give her a pet after peeling off, you say to the grandfather to send the past, she looks at you in the hand, see the Lord does not want to . You went on to say that if you don't give it to Grandpa, I won't give it to you anymore. The second flap, you said to send it to your grandmother, and sent it over. The third flap, you said to Dad, to Dad. When the last petal is given to her, the child may be picked up and put in your mouth. Then take a full peel for her to eat. This process allows children to develop a family consciousness that prevents children from being selfish.

Frustration endurance

When you encounter setbacks, the child chooses to give up. The toy is more difficult to assemble. If you don’t fight for a while, you will lose your temper and go to play other things. I’m worried that his attitude towards learning will be the same. How to train the child’s frustration and endurance What?

Sharing of opinions: frustration endurance is related to willpower, but the cultivation of willpower is not cultivated by intelligence. It is cultivated by physical strength. So when the child is young, let him eat a bit of physical strength. There is a suggestion: take your child to learn to swim. How does the coach teach? Take the rod down and let it go and drop it. The child will splash into the water, the coach will look at it, don't worry. But when the child is finished, you must ask him a question: What does it feel like to get into the water for the first time? He must have said that I drank a few mouthfuls of water and scared me. Then what? Did you come up? Come up! You tell your child that you have to remember this feeling all your life. No matter what the situation, you just feel that you are dying, as long as you are dying, you will definitely die. In the future, he will encounter setbacks again, and the parents will tell him this truth. He will definitely hold on.

"Look at the children who are there! Why can't you be like him?" I often hear many parents say this, but the children of other families are also the result of the parents' hard work.

Instead of complaining, it is better to act. It is not too late, so take action!